We try too hard to succeed in life but get stuck in the process many times and it is because there are some deadly barriers to success in life we shall overcome.
These deadly barriers to success in life are roadblocks to personal, professional, spiritual, or social advancement.
Psychological or emotional barriers can exist.
Individuals can attain desired outcomes such as personal development, career success, or improved interpersonal connections through overcoming barriers.
The most common deadly barriers to succeeding in life are:
- Achieving perfection
- Fear
- Clarity is lacking
- Establishing comparisons
- Inner Monologue Untamed
- Undefined Boundaries
- Unreasonable expectations
Now, how can we overcome the barriers? Let me explain 7 deadly barriers to success in life and what to do to beat them.
Deadly Barriers to Success
The 7 Deadly Barriers to Success in Life
Following is the list of the 7 deadly barriers to success in life.
When you are aware of the factors that are blocking you from a better life you can start working on them to overcome them.
1) Achieving perfection
The need for perfection is one of the most prevalent roadblocks we confront.
In her book Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, Elizabeth Gilbert writes that her mother constantly told her that “done is better than good.”
If everything has to be “exactly so” all of the time, anyone who is prone to perfectionism will find it difficult to stay on track to success.
Perfection suffocates originality, vitality, and chance encounters!
There are several examples of people through chance discovering items that we use on a daily basis.
They may never have experienced the success of their “mistakes!” if they had been so concerned with perfection.
Furthermore, we develop and progress throughout our lives by learning from our mistakes.
How are you going to quit striving for perfection?
It takes work to remove perfectionism, just as it takes years of practice to “perfect” a skill you’ve gained.
2) Fear
When we have the thought or sense that we are not safe and secure, fear is aroused.
When there is a serious threat to our safety, this is a very valuable tool.
And when the threat is fictitious, though, fear might keep us from completing the work necessary to achieve our objectives.
The greatest approach to dealing with fear, like perfectionism, is to become more attentive.
3) Clarity is Lacking
Assume you’re going on a trip and need to pack your belongings.
Your bag is out, but you have no idea where you’re going.
So you haven’t made up your mind about where you’re going, how long you’ll be gone, or what you’ll do.
How simple will packing for this vacation be?
It’s practically impossible to figure out what we need to do to go to our successful destination if we’re trying to run our careers or lives without clarity.
So, what’s the best way to acquire clarity?
When it comes to articulating your “message,” start with your WHY. [2] To put it another way, why are you doing what you’re doing?
It will be much easier to figure out your “how” and “what” if you have a firm understanding of your “why.”
Let’s return to the packing metaphor.
Perhaps you’re taking a trip to get some much-needed rest after being stressed out recently.
That suggests that a calm trip is preferable to one filled with museums and busy attractions.
There will be less tension if you travel less.
When you look at the spa’s website, you’ll notice that they offer a 3-day retreat. You’ve learned how to pack.
See how quickly those details fell into place once you knew why you were doing it?
Imagine the success you’ll have once you’ve discovered your “why”!
4) Establishing comparisons
It’s our nature to compare ourselves to others.
This is how we can tell if we’re doing things correctly and how we can keep improving.
When we get into the habit of constantly making comparisons and feeling awful about not being able to “keep up with the Joneses,” it drains our vitality.
And when our energy levels are low, so is our desire to keep working toward our objectives.
It’s crucial to be aware of how much emphasis you’re placing on “keeping up” with what you think everyone else is doing, just as it is with perfection.
5) Inner Monologue Untamed
How do you communicate with yourself?
Do you talk to yourself in an upbeat and encouraging manner? Or do you use a lot of negative self-talk?
For many people, an unrestrained inner monologue can be a major roadblock.
Many individuals believe that our inner monologue is what motivates us to improve ourselves.
To avoid sloth or sloppiness, we become “tough” on ourselves.
If left unchecked, monologues can rapidly devolve into something nasty and merely critical.
Despite our best intentions, this persistent practice of pointing out what’s “wrong” with what we do and who we are can deplete a lot of energy.
Overcoming negative self-talk is beneficial to our health, according to the Mayo Clinic.
Lower levels of sadness, higher immunological function, and increased coping skills in stressful situations are just a few of the advantages of having a compassionate inner voice.
Activities to develop awareness about your inner monologue and make it more compassionate include:
6) Undefined Boundaries
So far, we’ve looked at a few ways in which internal boundaries are crucial for success.
Monitoring your fear, limiting your need for perfection, lacking clarity about what you want, making unhealthy comparisons to others, and having a mean-spirited inner monologue are just a few examples.
What about the lines we need to draw with the people in our lives?
To be clear, setting boundaries does not simply say “no” to everything and isolates oneself from the rest of the world.
External boundaries that are healthy are about conveying what you want, how you want to be treated, and what your plans are to others.
If we have ambiguous boundaries with others, we will only succeed by chance, if at all.
Setting boundaries with others can be especially difficult for people pleasers and empaths.
Some people’s desire for peace is so strong that they convince themselves that it’s easier to delegate decision-making to others rather than risk causing disagreement.
The issue is that no matter how hard we try to avoid confrontation with others, we will generate conflict within ourselves, which will obstruct our progress.
If you want to be successful and have problems creating clear limits with people, start carefully growing your muscles around this skill.
7) unreasonable Expectations
It’s critical to have huge dreams. It’s how we allow great ideas and inspiration to bubble up to the surface of our awareness.
However, if our dreams aren’t based on the reality of our actual resources, we risk disappointment or, worse, the loss of our dreams!
Success is built on the foundation of fair expectations.
If you haven’t been introduced to the concept of making SMART objectives, now is an excellent time to start.
It might not always be possible to know whether or not something is reasonable, especially if you’re trying out a brand-new-to-you project.
If the expectation is for a new project to work without any bumps or glitches, this is likely to be unreasonable. The consequences of this experience could be losing your drive to succeed.
If the expectations for a new project include the idea of bumps and glitches that hold seeds of learning and growth, then even the perceived “mistakes” will turn out to be a success.
This has the positive benefit of fueling your motivation to keep working toward even more success.
Be mindful of where you set the bar—neither too high nor too low.
How to Overcome the Barriers to Success in Life
Whether it’s your career, your home life, or your past, we’ve all faced problems at some point in our lives, and we have to overcome them nearly every day.
During difficult situations, I’ve discovered that everyone reacts differently.
Some are superior to others. Inevitably, the decision you have to make is your own.
That decision may be difficult and something you don’t want to make.
Nobody wants to have a difficult conversation or be confronted with facts.
We must recognize that, in the end, the decision is usually made by you or for you.
Let’s face it, bad things happen. You may turn it into a learning opportunity, a chance, or you can whine about it while continuing to do what you’re doing.
This is true in both our professional and personal lives. You can only change your scenarios.
Nobody else knows the key to your happiness and success but you. The most difficult part is choosing your fights.
My parents used to question me, “Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things?” In certain circumstances, allowing points to slide is all that is required.
Other times, the issue must be addressed swiftly so that it does not become a greater issue.
There is a great line and also let’s face it, all of us battle every so often with tough choices.
When faced with hurdles in life, though, here are seven tips I’ve learned to overcome them:
Don’t complain.
People don’t want to hear “problem is me” over and over again, especially if you don’t do anything about it.
However, don’t be afraid to seek help and advice from those who may have been in similar situations.
You must agree to assist on your own. You can’t rely on others to do it for you.
Face the problem.
Don’t waste time equivocating. Find a solution to an issue if you have one.
Hiding it doesn’t help, yet it continues to gnaw at you.
Do you have no idea what to do? Seek help from a therapist.
As part of your HR package, several organizations offer completely free counselling services.
Attempt. If that doesn’t work, try something else.
Do anything but the same thing that hasn’t worked in the past.
Maintain an optimistic attitude.
It’s difficult to stay positive when you’re anxious about something, but consider the benefits that can come from the difficult decision you’ll have to make or the difficult task you’ll have to have.
Keep your expectations in check.
Understand that you may not receive the result you want, but we do get what we need in some circumstances.
Do you need to mature before you can receive what you want?
Often, the timing is off because there is something greater on the horizon, and we simply need to wait.
Not attempt to outdo others.
When someone says they’re having a hard time, don’t respond with, “You assume that’s tough… let me tell you my story.”
Everyone has faced adversity at some point in their lives.
It’s important to let them know you understand, but be helpful with your remarks and stories.
The emotional side of things.
When dealing with others, we frequently overlook the fact that there is more to it than logic.
Whether they realize it or not, the majority of people make decisions based on their emotions.
Past traumas or worries may play a role.
In some circumstances, in order to break through the barrier, you must first delve deeper into the underlying causes of disagreements and overcome that concern.
Simplify.
Keep your completion objective in mind at all times. In some circumstances, minor hurdles must be overcome in order to conquer the larger barrier.
When considering obstacles, break things down and tackle them in smaller chunks.
Video: Overcoming The Deadly Barriers to Success in Life
Video courtesy of Preston Smiles
Final Thoughts
Success necessitates overcoming numerous challenges, and many people will fail at some point.
The trick is to take small steps forward to overcome these challenges.
“Success is a state of mind,” writes Joyce Brothers. Start thinking of yourself as a success if you want to be successful.”
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